Reflections on Love

Strategies to get love

  1. I was responsible for making other people happy.
  2. I had to obey authorities and live up to expectations.
  3. Achievements and hard work would get me approval and love.
  4. I was never good enough.
  5. I was loved for the results I produced, not for who I was.

Seeking romantic love

A different form of love

A new understanding

Learning to love



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Shuying Ke

Shuying Ke

Shuying is a life and voice coach. She loves exploring life, seeking truth, and empowering people to reach their potential. Blogs at